The same #boilingwater that #softens the #potato#hardens the #egg.It’s about what you’re made of, not the #circumstancesWhat do you do when you go through the fire, or are put in the hot water?Does your #heart become soft, and you get closer to #God, you see how God brought this into your life, for you to turn and help others, you #critique yourself, and see what you can change to better yourself, you have #empathy for what others have said or done to you, #forgive them, knowing that they need to work on themselves, and it is them, not you….Does your heart become hard, you become #bitter about what others have said about you or done to you, you become #angry at God for allowing it to happen, say you have your own body/life you can do what you want, #ridicule others, choose to play the #victim mentality to stay #angry/mad/sad and live in that place….Remember either way you choose, you can still #season with lots of #love and grace and become even more better in the end also!
FIVE powerful notes to write that will CHANGE your LIFEPhone calls are great. But when you want to say something important, writing a note, especially a handwritten note, (or even in a card) can be even more powerful.
Why? Notes are unexpected. (Who writes letters anymore?) Notes can be savored. Notes can be saved. Notes can be pulled out and reread dozens of times.
The memories of phone calls can be fleeting. Notes–meaningful, sincere, genuine expressions of thanks, of praise, of feelings–can last forever.
Here are five notes you should write today:
1. Write a thank-you to someone who believed in you. Belief is a powerful thing. Some people have incredible stores of self-belief, but most of us are given confidence and self-assurance by others. Slowly but surely, through their encouragement and support, we develop a stronger sense of self.
At some point, someone saw you struggling and gave you hope. At some point, someone saw something in you that you didn’t yet see in yourself. Who you are today is a direct result of that person’s faith in you.Belief, founded or unfounded, is incredibly powerful–and when someone else believes in us, it’s unforgettable.Tell someone what a huge difference he or she made in your life. Reading your note will make a huge difference in that person’s life–and in your relationship.
2. Write an apology to a person you let down. We’ve all made mistakes. We’ve all done things we regret. Or we haven’t done things–and we regret not acting. We’ve all failed to step up, or step in, or show support, or lend an ear or shoulder…
Maybe you feel you’ve moved past it. Maybe you feel the other person has moved past it, too. Maybe you’re dreaming.An apology not made is the elephant in a room. No matter how much time has passed, it still colors every subsequent interaction. Kill the elephant. Say you’re sorry.
Just don’t follow your apology with a disclaimer. Don’t say, “I’m sorry, but I was really mad because you…” or “I’m sorry I blew up at you, but I do think you were out of line, too.”
Don’t say anything that in any way places even the smallest amount of blame on the other person. Say you’re sorry, say why you’re sorry, and take all the blame. No less. No more. The elephant may never totally disappear, but once you apologize, sincerely and genuinely, the elephant will no longer matter–to either of you.
3. Write a note of congratulations. You don’t even have to know the person. If you liked a book, contact the author and say, “I loved your book.” If a local entrepreneur landed a major customer, send a note and say, “I realize you don’t know me, but I was so impressed I just had to congratulate you!”
Just make sure you don’t follow your congratulations with some sort of request. (Unfortunately, that’s the oldest trick in the networking book, that some coaches have taught but that literally negates the congrats, so don’t do it.)
Bonus points if you explain the impact the person’s accomplishment had on you. Maybe it motivated you. Maybe it inspired you. Maybe it changed your life in some small way. If so, say so.
Then you’re not only congratulating people for a job well done–you’re letting them know they made an impact in someone else’s life.You’re letting them know they matter. They’ll feel a little better about themselves–and you’ll feel better about yourself, too.
4. Write an offer to help. Many people hesitate to ask for help. They see admitting they need help as the same as admitting a weakness. In a hard-charging, Type-A world, who willingly shows vulnerability?
But everyone–everyone–needs help. So offer to help. But don’t just say, “Is there anything I can help you with?” That won’t work: We’re trained to say, “No, I’m fine.”
Be specific. Find something you can help with. Say, “I know you’re working on that. Can I help you finish?” Or say, “I’ve always wanted to know more about this. Can I help you work on it?”
Offer in a way that feels collaborative, not patronizing or gratuitous. If you want, make it a “redeemable coupon” that entitles the recipient to take you up on a specific offer. Offer in the right spirit and people–especially people who might be struggling–will jump at a chance to draw on your energy, enthusiasm, and talent.
And in the process, you’ll strengthen a bond and make a better friend.
5. Write an unexpected compliment. Every day, people around you do good things. Most of those people don’t work with or for you; in fact, most of them have no relationship with you, professional or personal. Compliment one of them for something for which it’s least expected.
Write a note to a doctor who helped you through a rough time. Write a note to a college professor who made you see the world in a different way. Write a note to your town praising the snowplow crews. Write a note to someone who did something thoughtful not because it was expected but simply because they could.
Expected feels good. Unexpected makes a huge, and lasting, impact.
The note you write may be displayed for a long time, serving as a reminder that every job, no matter how seemingly thankless or invisible, is appreciated by at least one person.
And that’s an awesome way to be remembered.
#ThankYou #Congrats #Grateful #Note #Card #Compliment #Apologize #Encourage #Help
P 7 Cardinal Rules in Life
1) Make peace with your past – so it won’t screw up the present.
2) What others think of you is none of your business. (Just always do right, because it is right to do, as long as you do that – you don’t need to worry)
3) Time heals almost everything – give it time (don’t make it go away, or make you forget, but sometimes you will learn to more laugh and smile and be thankful and grateful for the memories, rather than cry and wish)
4) Don’t compare your life to others – and don’t judge them. You have no idea what their journey is all about (most people don’t wear post-its on their foreheads telling you everything they are going thru or have been thru – be kind to everyone)
5) Stop thinking too much – it’s alright not to know the answers. They will come to you when you least expect it.
6) No one is in charge of your happiness, except you
7) Smile – you don’t own all the problems of the world
(this is a copy of what they said, so blessed and honored to be invited as a featured guest on the show!)
24 year web design & marketing consultant Laurie Delk started incorporating a relationship marketing strategy in her personal business from day 1. However 13 years ago, she was introduced to a system that not only saved her time and money, it allowed her to share her same philosophy and strategies with all her clients which allowed them to have the same results in their business. Her story will not only amaze you, but will touch your heart.. She’s one in a million! #RelationshipMarketingWeekly #WebDesign #MarketingConsultant#SuccessStories
Kody Bateman: Hey everybody. This is Kody Bateman, Relationship Marketing Weekly. We are really excited for our show today. I can’t wait to jump into this interview.
We have the beautiful Laurie Delk coming out of Nashville, Tennessee, a 24-year veteran web designer and marketing consultant, working out of your home and created an incredibly successful business.
Laurie, welcome to the show today. Thank you for being with us.
Laurie Delk: Thank you. It’s an honor to be asked to be on the show.
Kody: We sure love that smile of yours, girl. I mean you just – you got a bundle of energy coming from you and we’re so excited to hear from you. I would consider you to be one of the top master relationship marketers in the world today.
I mean some of the things that you do to build your own business and to living your home life are absolutely incredible. We want to bring those stories out today in this interview. Man, I hope you’re all taking good notes because Laurie has got incredible information for us today.
First of all Laurie, 24-year veteran web designer and marketing consultant. Can you just tell us a little bit about what exactly you do? What do you provide for your clients?
Laurie: Yeah. So 24 years ago, I started out just basically creating basic websites. That was before programs were even out to create websites. So I did all the hard coding and graphics and then marketing when we got on the internet and then now I actually have several clients that I run their – it’s like web-based project management systems. So anything that they have to do with their business on the internet, I run that and head that off and take care of it.
Kody: So what kind of marketing efforts do you use? I know you do a lot on Facebook. So you do a lot of online stuff. You do a lot offline stuff. Most people listening right now, the first thing they always want to know is this sounds like an intriguing business. How do you acquire customers? What kind of things do you do? Just quickly.
Laurie: For me to get customers, it’s 100 percent referral. I don’t advertise anywhere. The only marketing per se that I do other than posting on social media really is keeping in touch with people and other clients that I’ve networked with refer me to other people.
Kody: OK. So 100 percent referral business. Everybody is always interested in that. I don’t care what profession you’re from. If you can generate 100 percent referral business, that’s a huge thing. So obviously people want to know how you do that. Again, you’re a master at relationship marketing. You’re a master at reaching out and connecting with people on Facebook as well as offline.
One of the things I really want to talk to you about Laurie is – one of the things I’ve learned from you is that you reaching out to people is – it’s who you are. It’s what you do. There doesn’t seem to be any lines of whether a person is doing business with you or whether you just met them somewhere. You do these things for everybody. Can you just talk to us a little bit about that?
I mean I want people to feel your heart because I think it’s important. Before we even get into the business side, it’s important that people understand that what you do is in you. I mean this is just who you are. So could you just share that with us?
Laurie: Yeah, I do. I believe in spreading happiness and kindness no matter what. So if people do business with me, great. If they don’t, that’s great too. We can still be great friends and I can still send them happiness through the mail and digitally through Facebook and other social media too.
I try to connect with people every single day through – I have a thing where I text 10 people a day and just say, “Hope you have a wonderful Wednesday!” or a terrific Thursday, something cute like that. I send messages like that on Facebook through messenger or sometimes directly to their page and then sometimes I post a selfie saying that to everybody.
But yeah, I try to just connect with people. If I can get their mailing address, I also send them cards and sometimes gifts through the mail. Then I always send birthday cards if I find that out. I try to snoop and find that out or ask them sometimes.
Kody: So let me ask you a question. When you do all of that, are you trying to get business from those people?
Kody: So you do it just to do it. Now Laurie, this is what I hope that all of our guests that get on this can understand. You do those things to do those things. You do those things without any expectation, anything in return. You do those things for the sake of being kind to other people, period. That’s why one of our guests before talked about being intentional with your relationships and that’s what you do.
This is what we are trying to teach the world is that if you do this, all of your business stuff takes care – that’s how you get 100 percent referral business. You just be nice to people for the sake of being nice to people. You are so good at that. I mean that’s one of the things I love most about your example is that you truly are that. You genuinely do that.
Let’s jump in to a couple of key things here. You do a lot on social media. You talk about how you reach out to – can you just walk us through the process of what you do every day on social media to reach out to people?
Laurie: Yeah. So my day is very busy. So I am very much into the time blocks. So I schedule two – usually two 15-minute time blocks on social media and so in that 15 minutes, I do 5 minutes of – I post things. So I post positivity, a cute quote that I read that day in my devotions, something educational, and then sometimes something that’s marketing also.
So I do that, the 80-20 rule. So it’s like four posts that I do that are educational or motivational or spiritual and then sometimes one marketing post and then the next 5 minutes, I read messages and get through all my messages that I can and then the last 5 minutes, what I do is – about once a year, I download all my data from Facebook. So you can go into your settings and download that, all your friends and all your followers.
So then I copy and paste that into a notepad and 5 minutes, I take a couple of people and I just take their name and I go to their page and I like a couple of things, comment, If they posted a picture of something, you know, with their kid playing soccer, where they won a game or something, that I download those pictures and then I send their kid a congratulations card with a pack of brownies or something like that.
So that way I’m connecting with them and then I erase them from that notepad, so that way it goes through and I end up getting through every single person that’s on my Facebook because I have the 5000 friends and the several thousand followers after that. So I don’t see all those people in my newsfeed because I don’t stay on there that long. So this way, I’m at least connecting with everybody at least once a year.
Kody: Wow! You could do a full day seminar on what you just said. I mean that was such a great quick recap of some really powerful activities on Facebook that you do. That’s just incredible stuff. I really appreciate you sharing that with us.
I’m on the receiving end of a lot of what you do. I mean I’m friends with you on Facebook. So I see these posts and every time I see a Laurie Delk post, I’m intrigued. It’s like, “OK. What’s Laurie going to share today?” and that’s because you’ve done it consistently for so long that I know that what you provide is going to create value for me.
I’ve also received greeting cards from you in the mail. I’ve received cards from you before just celebrating something or sometimes celebrating me or saying thank you to Jodi and I for something. So I’ve been on the receiving end of what you do and it’s incredible. I mean it’s magical, that process.
So let’s talk a little bit about the offline – by the way, time blocking. I think we need to touch on that a little bit. I find that so many people – we get in the habit where we spend way, way, way too much time on Facebook because you have a tendency. There’s a habit of, “Oh, I got a couple of minutes right now. Let me check my news feed,” and 45 minutes later, you’re still messing around on Facebook.
So I love that you time block and I think that’s great advice for all of us is to time block and get very – you get very specific about what you do during your time blocks, which is really powerful stuff. I appreciate you sharing that.
Offline, you do a ton of – you talk about thank-you cards, birthday cards, greeting cards. You talk about gifts that you offer sometimes along with those. Can you walk us through that process a little bit on – because again, you send a lot of greeting cards out, not necessarily for people that you’re doing business with. You’re just again reaching out to people in kindness. So walk us through what you do there.
Laurie: Yeah. So anytime I meet someone, I send them a “nice to meet you” card. If I do do business with them, of course I send them a “thank you for doing business with me” card. Sometimes if I – if it’s a prospective business, then I send them, “Thank you for your time,” or “Thank you for talking to me.”
I also do a lot of networking and then I meet people one-on-one outside of the networking and so then I send them a card saying, “Thank you for your time,” and send them like usually two packs of brownies or some sort of gift with that.
Then like yesterday, I had a friend that she’s a real estate agent and she posted on Facebook that she was in the top like 30 in her company and so I stole that picture off Facebook and threw it on a card and sent her a card and then sent her a little gift with it saying, “Hey, congratulations. I’m so proud of you.”
So little things like that and then also for – I always try to find out people’s birthday, their anniversary. I send cards at either Thanksgiving or Christmas or sometimes right in the middle to kind of do both and then I do another one like at the beginning of the year. So sometimes I pick St. Patrick’s Day or Easter or spring or 4th of July. So I can just create like a campaign where I create a card one time and then I pick the groups of the people – I always put all my people in different categories, in different groups in our contact management relationship system that we use. That way, I can pick out who I want to send them to and then click the button and 5000 cards go out all at once.
Kody: Well, I’m glad you brought that up, that there’s a system that helps you do this because when we hear you say all these things you do, it – people listening right now, I mean it sounds overwhelming. It sounds like that’s all you do all day every day is send cards galore to people everywhere. But you actually have a system that helps you do that.
In fact, you’ve sent over 80,000 greeting cards in the last 13 years to people in your life, whether you do business with them or not. You’ve just given us the examples of how you do it. Can you break down for us – I mean how much – again, you’re a big time blocker. How much time a day do you spend sending cards, just on average?
Laurie: I schedule 15 minutes a day. So that’s – usually that’s all. Every once in a while, if it’s something throughout the day – like if I’m out and about and I end up seeing somebody or I capture a moment and I know the person or whatever or I find out who the person is and their address, then I might log on to my phone and send one card really quickly and gift right then. But other than that, it’s – the same thing. I have a time block and it’s 15 minutes. So it’s – yeah, it’s not a lot of time. But –
Kody: Well, that’s amazing. On average 15 minutes a day turns into 80,000 cards over the course of 12 or 13 years. So that’s what – hopefully the message that we convey here is that with systems like we have – and you use a system called SendOutCards. With systems like that, you’re capable of time blocking and doing this. Now do you do it – because I know you’re very modest and you don’t like to share your success. But you run a very, very successful consultant business and – what other kind of marketing do you do?
Kody: So this is it. This is all you do.
Laurie: Yes. I don’t do any – I don’t pay for any other type of marketing at all. I send out cards and keep in touch with people and yeah, whether they do business with me or not. A lot of people that I even send cards to are in the same business with me or where they wouldn’t do business with me, with what I do, whether it’s web and graphics design or in the send-out-cards business or anything that they wouldn’t do business with me because they already do what I do. But I still send them cards because I’m still building that relationship and I totally believe what goes around comes around and what you give out comes back to you and it has worked. So I keep doing it.
Kody: Very much a habit for you. It’s in you and you can’t turn it off. You just keep doing it in 15-minute time blocks a day and that’s what you do. In fact another interesting stat that you shared with me earlier, in 2016 – everybody listen to this. This is crazy.
In 2016, you sent close to 10 packs of brownies, just a little gift. There’s a little gift that the SendOutCards system allows – and there’s all kinds of gifts. But one of the big selling gifts is two packs of brownies in a beautiful box and they can go with the greeting card. You sent close to 10 packs of brownies every single day the last year.
Kody: Who are you sending these to and why? I mean what? I mean that’s amazing. So why are you doing that?
Laurie: Well, I’ve always said that I love to send out happiness through the mail. So that’s what the cards – I always try to – any card that I send, I want somebody, when they open it, to smile. So I don’t want it to just be a “blah” card.
I want them to enjoy it and be happy and feel that emotion when they get it. The brownies are yummy. They’re just so yummy. So you can send a two-pack and it’s super convenient and economical and I just decided one year that – that that was it. That I wanted to do more than just a birthday card and so I decided that every birthday I had come up, that I was going to send two packs of brownies with it.
So in my contact manager that I have, I have between 5 and 15 about birthdays every single day that come up in my database, that remind me. So yeah, so I just decided that I added two packs of brownies with the campaign. So it was already set up for me and I just clicked that button. But that way, everybody got not just a card but they also got a nice gift from me.
Kody: Wow, that’s incredible. I’m going to act on a prompting right now as we close the show up and I don’t mean to put you on the spot. But I feel prompted to do so. Laurie, you are – people watching you right now, you’re a bundle of positive energy. You’re happy. You do amazing things every day to please other people and to bring kindness into people’s lives. Obviously we’re in a world today that desperately needs that. You resonate kindness from you, happiness from you, and you’ve been through a great deal of trial in your life in the last five or six years. You have dealt with adversity that would break most people.
I just feel compelled to kind of close this right now and – if you would like to share what you’ve been through, that’s fine. But just how do you go through such adversity like I know you’ve been through and resonate the kind of joy that you resonate on this call? Can you just share with us what makes this – so you can be like that?
Laurie: Yeah. So I’ve had like seven major heartaches in the last five years from losing my husband, to my mom, and several people close to me. I actually tell a lot of my walk and my book that is being released this week actually called We All Have Choices and that said, I was so blessed with a mom who raised me to have that positivity mindset and then of course the people that I’ve been allowed to be around and attracted into my life the last several years helped me to feed me that mindset and still have moments obviously.
You know, when I first got the news of my husband being killed in a car wreck, all that positivity pretty much went out the window. But still it just – because I live that so much every day and I read and I – in the bible, it talks about that Paul encouraged himself in the Lord and David encouraged himself in the Lord.
So you have to encourage yourself. You have to lift yourself back up. Pick yourself up by the bootstraps and move forward. So I know how important that is and like for me, I know – you know, not only do I know that I have a lot of people that watch me and follow me. But even more so importantly, I have children that are watching how I react to these situations because they’re going to have situations in their life that one day, they will have to react to.
So I just know how important it is to find some sort of positivity, something that you can be grateful for. One of the things I do is every day in my gratitude journal, I write five specific things for that day that I’m thankful and grateful for.
So when I do have those moments and I go to my bed and cry, I can pull out my gratitude journal that’s right in my nightstand next to my bed and I can read through thousands of pages of all these things that I have to be grateful for to make me get back to that positivity mindset and make me realize what I can be thankful and grateful for because there are so many things that God has blessed me with in so many different areas.
So even though I might walk through some sort of tragedy that I might not be so happy with and I might not understand and who knows, might not ever understand until I get to heaven, I still can trust the fact that I’ve been blessed in so many incredible different ways that I need to stay focused on being thankful and grateful for that and that’s – and what you think about, you bring about. That was one of my mom’s favorite phrases and she used to tell me that. I mean from the time I was little, that I could walk, I remember her saying that.
So I totally believe in just making my mindset think and focus on the things that I want to attract into my life. So I believe that helps and has helped me to help other people that have ended up walking in the same shoes as me.
Kody: Well, Laurie, you’re a great example. We appreciate your stories. We appreciate what you provide for the world today. We’re in such need of the kindness that you provide and even walking through adversity and you’ve shared with us some really cool things that you can do to stay in the positive, which is so important in the world today.
So thank you very much for being on the show. We really, really appreciate you. Next week, you may want to tune in next week. By the way, those of you who are watching this, just get back with the person that shared this with you and they can share with you more about the system that Laurie uses and how it could help you in your business and in your personal life as well.
We’re about bringing the human race together and we’re going to do it through kindness. So we have a way to do that. We’re excited about it.
Next week, we have a very special guest, Jordan Adler. Jordan Adler is a highly successful network marketer and author, very well-known in the network marketing and entrepreneurial profession and best-selling author of the book Beach Money.
My goodness, you want to be on the show because he’s going to share with us how – what he does in his network marketing profession, what he does as an author, and how he shares and teaches other people how to be kind using relationship marketing principles.
Great show for all of us to tune into next Wednesday, Jordan Adler. This week, Laurie Delk, thank you very much. Again, your book is titled We All Have Choices. Where can we find that? Where could someone get a copy of that? I know I’m excited for it.
Laurie: It’s on Amazon, We All Have Choices.
Kody: We All Have Choices by Laurie Delk. It’s on Amazon. Please go and get a copy today. Thank you Laurie. Thank you everybody for tuning in. We will see you next week. Take care now.
Although fear is natural, and seldom goes away wholly, fear can haunt us before and even after we’ve started in our chosen career.
However, understanding how to break through that fear can open many doors and bring massive success.
Todd Falcone conquered many of these fears at a young age while just getting out of college and choosing a career in Network Marketing & Sales.
Todd now travels the world, contributing to the world of sales as a whole, no matter the industry.
He is the: Founder of ‘The Fearless Networker’Author of ‘Fearless Networking’ Network Marketing made sense to Todd as a chosen career, and he made a decision that not only brought on fear but, a drive to be successful.
The difference between success and failure is deciding to go all-in, and find success no matter what! ~Todd Falcone
Take a listen to this short video where Todd shares how to shake off the fear and find the success you seek by making a decision that failure is not an option.