On this day, 24 years ago, Bryan Delk and I became husband and wife, and the 5th one that you are missing….Funny, 5 years ago, everyone told me, *one day* you’ll be able to look
back at this day and not cry, but just be thankful and grateful for the happy memories….back then, I was grateful and thankful still of course, but cried lots and lots too, and couldn’t even begin to imagine that these people that told me this were ‘sane’ in their thoughts…..Today, I can say I am more grateful for the 20 years we had, than crying, although some tears as I get flowers for your grave, but not near as many as in the past….. I remember so much, like yesterday…..
It was hot in Tennessee…. I cried some in the ceremony, but then you had look of relief on your face when I said they were tears of joy. 😉
That last 20 years, we faced many challenges but we got through all of them because through it all we loved each other and we loved God.
Today, sometimes you’ll find me crying again. I know you always hated to see me cry, but it can’t be helped sometimes….I try to remember your words you used to say always to me “I want to see you smile” and I try, I try every day, and I try to focus on the wonderful years God allowed me to have you.
The vows we took said for in sickness and in health and we did that very well, living up to those words. I am confident and happy knowing that you were mine and me yours only, for almost 20 years….The til death do us part, is the most difficult challenge of them all. I said those words without realizing what that really meant because somehow I figured it was going to be SO f
ar off in the future, we would be old and gray before we had to face that… I remember thinking and dreaming of us being in our 80’s, sitting on our front porch, and watching the grandkids playing….Well here we are, or….here I am, faced with life without you…the person I entrusted with my happiness and my soul and now you’re gone.
I am faced with the monumental task of going on with out you with the memories of the times together to see me through the days, weeks, months and years ahead.
Thank you baby for those memories and for the awesome and wonderful children we raised together. I know the road ahead will be bumpy but I know at the end of the road, you’ll be wa
iting for me with welcoming arms wide open to greet me and hug me once again one day.
I do not know how long it will take me to meander down that road, but my anniversary wish is that you are peaceful now and are not sad up there. Your gift to me has been acquired over the years….strength, courage, faithful, and a “we can do this” attitude. So, I wish you happy anniversary. I love you. I promise to always try to smile…I can still hear it in my head you telling me “I want to see you smile” – No matter what was going on, even if I was mad at you
– if you said that – you always made me smile anyway – and you knew it! 🙂
From the time we were married till he left this earth was
or 1019 weeks
or 171,192 hours
or 10,271,520 minutes
or 616,291,200 seconds
This is equal to exactly 19 years, 6 months, and 9 days
For our 20th anniversary, he had planned he was going to buy me an anniversary band to put on the other side of my engagement ring, to match my wedding band. And we were going to take a trip someplace special, don’t know where, but somewhere we had never been, we had thought of one of those couples resorts….
I love you more than anything, I love our wonderful kids God allowed us to have. I am very thankful God let me have you for almost 20 years. Yes, I wish it was more, lots more, never even had the thoughts of what happened….you know you think about sickness, maybe *one day*…..but never this….thought and dreamed about us being in our 80’s on our front porch in our little town, watching our grandkids run around, while we hold hands….sigh….such a pretty dream…..
I was told that one day, I will think that way, and not cry, but just think about the happy times, and be happy … I am thankful and grateful that after almost 5 years, it is more that way now…..although I still and will always love and miss you
If your every day problems are weighing you down, there are MILLIONS of people on Earth, that would GLADLY trade places with you right now – problems and all…..and feel they have been ROYALLY blessed…..think about it~
There is always someone who has it *worse* than you……
I remember once, on one of my *worst* days, after Bryan Delk was killed…..*whining* to God, about my situation…..but I had meetings to go to and work to do, I was in Panera doing some work on my laptop before my next meeting, and I ended up meeting a lady, who was a widow, her husband was also killed in a car wreck, but he had 3 of their 7 kids with him, that were also now gone…..God *put me back in my place* very quickly, of being thankful and grateful……
It is SO easy to get *overwhelmed* and let *drama* of a situation overtake us…..and I am not perfect, and I struggle with it every day, just like everyone else….but, I still *try* and *thinketh myself happy* — as the Bible says Paul did when going in front of King Agrippa to possibly get his head chopped off…..
Yes, it is hard sometimes, but sometimes, always, we *must* put forth the effort, and *maketh ourselves happy* ♥
Picture me holding up a five dollar bill….
“How would you spend this $5?”
(Some people may say: Subway, Starbucks, etc)
If you are in business, how ’bout this –
How hard did you WORK to GET those CLIENTS –
what are you doing to KEEP them????
one card – “Thank you for the referral”
second card – “Happy Birthday”,
next card – “Sorry for your loss”,
next card – “I appreciate your business”,
last card – “Merry Christmas/Happy Holidays”
“For a few dollars per customer per year, we cultivate and build relationships and your customers will know they are valued and appreciated.”
I CHOOSE to be happy!
I CHOOSE to LOVE my LIFE!
I CHOOSE to be thankful and grateful for ALL the BLESSINGS God has given to me!
When Paul was talking to King Agrippa, he said:
“I think myself happy” Acts 26:2
Some people make a different *choice*…
They choose to…
whine, complain, worry, be depressed, think about what they are missing, focus on who has done them wrong, be a victim of circumstance.
Every single day you DO have a CHOICE.
You can CHOOSE how you feel about a certain person or situation.
You can CHOOSE how you react to things that happen to you.
(because everyone has things happen, right? It is just our choice in our response.)
You can CHOOSE how to feel (angry or happy)
You can CHOOSE what to think about.
Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.
Everyone has trials in life – you can CHOOSE to let them DEFEAT you or DEFINE you.
No matter what you are going through right now, there is somebody that is going through the same or worse than you. There is always something you can CHOOSE to be grateful or thankful for – think on these things.
Put your faith in God, and trust in Him, even though we not might *like* what He *allows* us to go thru at times, if we trust in Him, we are better.
“whoso trusteth in the LORD, happy is he” — Prov 16:20
Today’s busy schedules often leave little time for enriching people’s lives – our own included. But, carving out time to reach out to loved ones and strengthen our personal connections helps to boost our emotional well-being. Connecting with friends and family doesn’t have to take a lot of effort and it is often the simple, small gesture that has the most impact when it comes to showing someone how much you care.
Sending a greeting card is one of those simple gestures that reminds people someone is thinking about them. Making someone else feel special can also have the effect of making the sender feel good too. With all of the stress in people’s lives today, that small oasis of contentment is something we need now more than ever.
A recent survey by the Greeting Card Association found that almost 9 out of 10 Americans believe they are as close or closer to their friends and family than they were one year ago and 66% of Americans are regularly reaching out to their immediate family for love and support. Many times they are doing this, thru the simple process of sending out a greeting card in the mail.
Connecting with friends and family can occur because of a sense of obligation to recognize important life events, or it can simply result from an impulsive desire to reach out. Sometimes one person connecting with another will set off a boomerang effect of reaching out!
Imagine what an amazing thing can happen in the lives of others, if everyone decided to just *reach out* and send out cards every single day – just 1 card a day – to someone that you thought about. Just a nice, touchy/feely type card, to make someone smile.
62% of people feel inspired to send someone a card if they receive one from that person.
Follow these simple tips to stay connected with friends and family and boost your own sense of emotional well-being:
Set aside an allotted amount of time each day to reach out to others. Reaching out doesn’t take a lot of time, but it can be very meaningful to those we touch. A simple phone call, e-mail or greeting card reminds our loved ones how much we care. (Example: Just take 10 minutes every morning, not a big deal, not a huge time restraint, and easy to do, and enrich others lives – as well as yours – (contact me for details of a SIMPLE way to do this)).
Take time to reflect on what is important and of value in your life microsoft project alternative. You can start a gratitude journal and write down everything and everyone you are grateful for. Writing down things of importance help us to remember the most special personal connections. I decided to keep a journal once, and all it was, was ONCE a day, every day, I would write SOMETHING good about that day – or something good that happened in that day. It is amazing the difference it makes you feel overall.
Don’t wait for a reason to connect. Life is too short to hold back when it comes to connecting with friends and family. (And we are never promised tomorrow.) Sending a “thinking of you” or “just because” card can be one of the best ways to show someone you care.
Reflect your own personality when reaching out to loved ones. Whether it’s a romantic note on a pillow or a humorous card in the mail, connections with friends and family should showcase your own attitude and sentiment.
Hold on to your personal connections through tangible memories. One of the best ways to keep our connections top of mind is by holding on to a physical momento or keepsake. Reflecting on old letters and cards helps us to remember our most special connections.
Try it for 30 days – and let me know how this project has enriched your life – I guarantee you – you will never be the same, and you will never stop. Just take 10 min each day, for 30 days, and in that 10 min, make a phone call, write an email, or better yet, send out a card to someone. Just to tell them, thank you, you were thinking about them, you love them, they did a great job, etc. Anything, prompt yourself to think of ONE person a day to do this for. If you want an EASY way to do it with the greeting cards, contact me. But either way – please do it – and share your results with me after 30 days.