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Widows go to Orlando

#Meetings for 3 days straight, 9am-9pm but filled with so much content, real #information, no #fluff, #tips, #tricks n #ideas to get you from where you are to push you to where you want to be, where you need to be, for you, for your #family, for those you have #influence over.

I have literally filled up my first notebook w all my notes already n only halfway thru the send day.

#WonderfulWidowedWoman

#WhatsYourStory?

#WeAllHaveChoices – we all have stuff that happens, and new n different shoes we have to walk in, but it’s our choice what we do, with those steps God gives us

Wearing #Yummie leggings and #Venus top, with a #Pashmina scarf

Many people said it will get better in time

Many people said “it will get better in time”….
In my opinion, it doesn’t get better, you just learn to walk in your new shoes…

I am wearing a pair of shoes.
They are ugly shoes.
Uncomfortable shoes. I hate my shoes.
Each day I wear them, and each day I wish I had another pair.
Some days my shoes hurt so bad that I do not think I can take another step.
… Yet, I continue to wear them.
I get funny looks wearing these shoes.
They are looks of sympathy.
I can tell in others eyes that they are glad they are my shoes and not theirs.
They never talk about my shoes.
To learn how awful my shoes are might make them uncomfortable.
To truly understand these shoes you must walk in them.
But, once you put them on, you can never take them off.
I now realize that I am not the only one who wears these shoes.
There are many pairs in this world.
Some women are like me and ache daily as they try and walk in them.
Some have learned how to walk in them so they don’t hurt quite as much.
Some have worn the shoes so long that days will go by before they think about how much they hurt.
No woman deserves to wear these shoes.
Yet, because of these shoes I am a stronger woman
These shoes have given me the strength to face anything.
They have made me who I am.
I will forever walk in the shoes of a woman who has lost her husband

At dinner on the last night of our cruise from our girl’s trip on Royal Caribbean Brilliance of the Seas

At dinner on our last night for our girl’s trip! Our cool waiter jumped in w us a few times! Lol

This night I chose to wear a pretty royal blue top from #WhiteHouseBlackMarket my black #Stiletto #NineWest heels and a pretty fitted black skirt.

Our food was amazing every night! This night I chose the seafood crabcake, and the chicken (had a little ham and cheese inside it) w rice and squash, chocolate cookie w ice cream, and a no sugar strawberry parfait.

#BeachLife #LifeIsBetterByTheWater #BeachGirl #TravelGirl #CruisePrincess #BayBabe #HotPinkPrincess #RoyalCaribbean #BrillianceOfTheSeas

Dinner at Senor Frogs in Cozumel, my birthday ring and bracelet and dinner w widow friends

Back from Cozumel on the way to dinner, another one of my favorite dresses from VENUS. And no way doing heels after all that walking today so in my #michaelkohrs flats

Happy birthday to me this is a mercury sapphire, opal, and diamond ring 😁

#BeachLife #LifeIsBetterByTheWater #BeachGirl #TravelGirl #CruisePrincess #BayBabe #HotPinkPrincess #venus

Pirates are coming! lol

We got balloon hats while we waited for our nachos 😊 At Senor Frogs
I got a MIAMI vice without alcohol n she got her margarita that she made lol

Haha! Our waiter is hilarious – check out the sign he put behind me lol

Dinner w my widow friends that came on the cruise with me to help me celebrate my birthday! 🙂

Lovin my birthday/widow cruise!

I chose to do a cruise for my 50th birthday, I invited several widows, plus other friends….We ended up w 4 widows and 2 other lady friends for 6 for fun on a wonderful girls trip!

The next few posts I will tell you about some of our adventures!

Comment what you have done on your cruises and how you made them fun and your best tips!

They are spoiling me on the #RoyalCaribbean #BrillianceOfTheSeas

Dress up night!

I’m wearing a green dress by #Venus

Has a short satin dress under and then a sheer w gold sparkles over it, and my black #NineWest stilettos 👠

#BeachLife #LifeIsBetterByTheWater #BeachGirl #TravelGirl #CruisePrincess #BayBabe #HotPinkPrincess

Are you thankful, for everything?

This morning, the church message was about being thankful…..and considering I co-founded our non-profit Gratitude Girls, I of all people better be thankful and grateful right? 🙂 And I am…..

But, he did say one thing, I have struggled with (we can be open, raw, and honest, right? I am a real human) The Bible says in every thing, give thanks.

I believe the bible, I know the bible is true, and I DO *try* to give thanks in *every thing*….

Although sometimes when it is worded in a certain way, it is *hard*….example *write down everything that has happened to you, good or bad or indifferent* and say “God thank you for that”…..

Now granted, I DO believe that everything God *allows* into your life, you have a #choice if you #choose to use it for God or not.

Example, I do not think I could or will *ever* be *able* to say
“God, thank you for taking Bryan Delk to Heaven”.
I just can’t do it.

Now…..
I have learned to be thankful for the 2 years God allowed me to have him in my life, rather than be bitter at the next 20 that I don’t.
I have learned to be thankful for that happening and me being able to have the faith to move forward and speak to so many widows events, and God bring so many widows into my life and others introduce me to so many that I am able to help #WalkInTheirShoes and get closer to God, and be thankful in the process.
I have learned to be thankful that because of that, I was able to write my 2nd book #WeAllHaveChoices and became a #bestseller the day it was launched, and I am able to help and reach so many other women (and men) with that and bring them closer to the Lord.
I have learned to be thankful that through so many steps and changes the last almost 6 years, my life has changed so drastically, but for the good in so many ways, that I have felt that loving *protection* and *security* of my Heavenly Father saying to me “I am taking care of you in this area” — and that helps so many times, when I am praying in other areas I have not seen the answer yet….

So with that…..in case anyone has heard that message before, or struggled(s) in that same area as me…..Learn to be thankful and grateful in the areas that you *can* be thankful and grateful in, don’t beat yourself up in the areas that you are *not there yet* (frankly, I don’t know that I will ever be able to say that about my husband in that way – “I am thankful that he passed” — and who knows, maybe there is another way to word it…..BUT I CAN say – I am thankful, that *through* that situation, I HAVE had SO many #BLESSINGS in my life – that I am thankful and grateful for that have come to me.

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