Widow

Is it true you have to get over it?

“It isn’t true that you *have* to *get over it*. It isn’t even true that you have to want to. No one else can understand what you have lost. No one else can bear the burden of your tribute to a love, to a life, to an identity now gone. What a privilege it is to feel deeply.” — Anne Lamott

When I speak on stages all over the world talking about #WeAllHaveChoices, steps in life, grief, being a widow, losing a loved one, etc….

I say this all the time….you NEVER get over it (and if you are reading this, please do not ever say this to any person….ever) ….yes if you are still breathing, there is a purpose, and you need to move forward, you need to grieve, cry, get mad, etc all those things, and you may have *triggers* the rest of your life…..It will be 7 years in two weeks or the most tragic loss of my life I never expected….then several more major losses pretty b2b after that for a few years….and I have shed many tears, and still there are *triggers* that happen that will bring back up re-living moments and tears all over again….

that is OKAY…..

Don’t ever let anyone tell you it is not! But the thing is to not *stay there*….cry, get mad, get angry, get sad, whatever the case may be….then move forward w whatever you need to do in life, business, ministry…..BREATHE, as you are breathing for a reason….find a way to help someone else, lift each other up…..life your life, find things to be grateful for, be grateful for the moments that you did have w that person, instead of focusing on the moments you will no longer get to have.

Live your life, love hard, cherish moments, celebrate memories, when that argument comes up, think about it, is it REALLY worth it? If yes, stand your ground, if not, let it go, let them be right, who cares…..treat people as if this will be the last time you will get to see them, because you never know, one of these days…..it will be <3

Widows go to Orlando

#Meetings for 3 days straight, 9am-9pm but filled with so much content, real #information, no #fluff, #tips, #tricks n #ideas to get you from where you are to push you to where you want to be, where you need to be, for you, for your #family, for those you have #influence over.

I have literally filled up my first notebook w all my notes already n only halfway thru the send day.

#WonderfulWidowedWoman

#WhatsYourStory?

#WeAllHaveChoices – we all have stuff that happens, and new n different shoes we have to walk in, but it’s our choice what we do, with those steps God gives us

Wearing #Yummie leggings and #Venus top, with a #Pashmina scarf

Many people said it will get better in time

Many people said “it will get better in time”….
In my opinion, it doesn’t get better, you just learn to walk in your new shoes…

I am wearing a pair of shoes.
They are ugly shoes.
Uncomfortable shoes. I hate my shoes.
Each day I wear them, and each day I wish I had another pair.
Some days my shoes hurt so bad that I do not think I can take another step.
… Yet, I continue to wear them.
I get funny looks wearing these shoes.
They are looks of sympathy.
I can tell in others eyes that they are glad they are my shoes and not theirs.
They never talk about my shoes.
To learn how awful my shoes are might make them uncomfortable.
To truly understand these shoes you must walk in them.
But, once you put them on, you can never take them off.
I now realize that I am not the only one who wears these shoes.
There are many pairs in this world.
Some women are like me and ache daily as they try and walk in them.
Some have learned how to walk in them so they don’t hurt quite as much.
Some have worn the shoes so long that days will go by before they think about how much they hurt.
No woman deserves to wear these shoes.
Yet, because of these shoes I am a stronger woman
These shoes have given me the strength to face anything.
They have made me who I am.
I will forever walk in the shoes of a woman who has lost her husband

At dinner on the last night of our cruise from our girl’s trip on Royal Caribbean Brilliance of the Seas

At dinner on our last night for our girl’s trip! Our cool waiter jumped in w us a few times! Lol

This night I chose to wear a pretty royal blue top from #WhiteHouseBlackMarket my black #Stiletto #NineWest heels and a pretty fitted black skirt.

Our food was amazing every night! This night I chose the seafood crabcake, and the chicken (had a little ham and cheese inside it) w rice and squash, chocolate cookie w ice cream, and a no sugar strawberry parfait.

#BeachLife #LifeIsBetterByTheWater #BeachGirl #TravelGirl #CruisePrincess #BayBabe #HotPinkPrincess #RoyalCaribbean #BrillianceOfTheSeas

Dinner at Senor Frogs in Cozumel, my birthday ring and bracelet and dinner w widow friends

Back from Cozumel on the way to dinner, another one of my favorite dresses from VENUS. And no way doing heels after all that walking today so in my #michaelkohrs flats

Happy birthday to me this is a mercury sapphire, opal, and diamond ring 😁

#BeachLife #LifeIsBetterByTheWater #BeachGirl #TravelGirl #CruisePrincess #BayBabe #HotPinkPrincess #venus

Pirates are coming! lol

We got balloon hats while we waited for our nachos 😊 At Senor Frogs
I got a MIAMI vice without alcohol n she got her margarita that she made lol

Haha! Our waiter is hilarious – check out the sign he put behind me lol

Dinner w my widow friends that came on the cruise with me to help me celebrate my birthday! 🙂

Lovin my birthday/widow cruise!

I chose to do a cruise for my 50th birthday, I invited several widows, plus other friends….We ended up w 4 widows and 2 other lady friends for 6 for fun on a wonderful girls trip!