Personal Development

Be prepared to find blessings coming to you from situations and circumstances which may at first appear to be the opposite. Learn to look for the blessing

“Be prepared to find blessings coming to you from situations and circumstances which may at first appear to be the opposite.

Learn to look for the blessing.”

I have been coaching, training, and speaking at events all over the world the last 15 years. Much moreso the last 6 years. It is amazing the many tragic events that have come thru my life, where I have thought, for a moment, “Why God, Why Me? Why not _____? You picked the wrong person, I am not this strong”…..

And through that, staying close to God, praying and questioning Him *many* times (I promise! I ask, fight, argue, cry, whine! lol All the above!)

Then He will bring something in front of me, someone who needs something, a speaking engagement not for money (sometimes yes, sometimes not), but for spiritual, where I *get the opportunity to* help and be of service to others……

But it is in those moments, not that it makes it all better….

It never does……but He shows me, how, *simply me* can help someone else, and make a difference for good in *their* life. People come to me after, they text me, they private message me, they call me, they hug me, they cry with me, they tell me how they got saved, or grew closer to God……And I realize……*My Why* and why He allowed it.

It don’t take the hurt and pain away, don’t make it perfect…..but it DOES make me feel better, makes me *see* the difference I am being able to make in my *dash* while I am here on this earth.

#IAmSoBlessed #IamGrateful #IamThankful #IAmHis #IAmMakingADfiference

Do you treat your business, as a business or as a hobby?

This came up again recently in talking w a few people….so I thought I would *talk* about it here –

When I hear people say ‘treat it as a business not a hobby, if you treated it as a business you’d find time’

(granted I agree, to a point) — for me, I was not treating my business as a hobby, I have always treated my *business as a business*, I am very professional, honest, ethical, etc in my business….. and have always worked it consistently for almost 25 years being self employed (25 web & graphic design, branding & marketing, 15 years speaking, coaching and training, 15 years in my Networking Luncheons business, 15 years in my greeting cards and gifting business, etc), BUT I have had a job at times as well, also own a few non-profits, had a husband for a long time and homeschooled my kids, and I was not going to neglect my family *in order to build a business*…..I designed and started my businesses to ENHANCE my family.

Others have said even build it so you can spend more time w your family later, which makes sense “to a point” ….but also I’ve seen many “lose” their marriage and/or kids during that process (and I did make that mistake some when I was younger, and sometimes still do, I have always been a *work-a-holic* but I also absolutely LOVE what I do, so it is not like work), and as I have experienced a few years ago, what if your spouse or child is not *here* one day? so….. then what was it worth????? Make SURE you don’t *neglect* them to build now totally, and plan for later, cuz you might not have a later with them….

My number one focus is FAMILY
but still being consistent in business at the same time…..

You have to learn to schedule…..too much of anything, good or bad, can become a bad thing….so you need to schedule your job, your spiritual time, your personal time, your business time, your spouse time, your kids time, etc, if it is not scheduled, you probably won’t make time for it, and you must be flexible of course as well – and to a point you can work your business around your personal life too….

CONSISTENCY is the KEY, a little bit or a lot a bit, every day, every week, every year, with out giving up…..remember your WHY you started it in the first place, WHY you are doing it and what you want out of it or from it……that is one of the things that has helped me

Relax more, worry less and live and enjoy the moment.

Relax more, worry less, and live and enjoy the moment.

I am learning to do this more and more all the time.

It is important to HUSTLE and make a difference in the world, do better for yourself and your family.

But it is ALSO just as important, if not more important, to spend TIME (=LOVE) with those you love and build those RELATIONSHIPS, because one day, money or not, those are what you will have.

Build relationships, keep that your focus, friends and family and clients and customers – when that is your focus, the business and the money will just happen……

Those *not there* don’t get it, those that FINALLY gave in, and tried it, and stuck with it – see those blessings.

Learn from those who have done it before you – listen to the wise, don’t listen to those that are not where you want to be – emotionally, spiritually, physically, financially, etc. Follow and listen to the ones that ARE where you want to be, and do what they tell you and what you see them do.

Superheroes have stories

Every superhero has a story….and while all superheroes don’t all wear capes, they all usually took some sort of tragedy, and instead of playing the *victim* role, they USED that TRAGEDY to LAUNCH them into SUCCESS and to HELP OTHERS.

Batman was a child walking on the street at night with his family, when they were robbed. The thief out of cruelty shot his mom and dad, killing them. Leaving him alone to create the rest of his story without them.

That event thrust Bruce Wayne into a life of seeking justice against criminals.

What is your tragedy/story?

How are you going to help others through your tragedy/story?

What are you going to do to make a difference for GOOD in the world because of your tragedy/story?

When are you going to do it? Don’t wait till it’s too late……

*someone* might be *waiting* to hear your story – to HELP THEM.

Reflecting…..

REFELCTING:

Many of you that know me and are closer to me, know I consistently work like 100 hours a week…..busy, can’t get into trouble, right?! haha! But keeps the mind busy, and I remember my mom used to say, “if you are awake, you are to be productive and profitable” — no lazy in our house! lol

But more this last week or so, I have always *known* to do this, but the last *while* found myself falling back into the routine of *skipping ‘me’* and just doing for everyone else…and so I have been taking more time off, granted only a little, but moments here and there for *just me*…..and it has been refreshing, and very much needed, I know….

And in that – I have reflected…..SO much has *changed through my life….I talked w a friend on my career and how 15 years ago, if you’d have told me I would be teaching and coaching others in life and business and traveling every month and speaking on stages all over the world to thousands of people, and companies and organizations would be calling me, hiring me to speak and train their employees and salespeople – I would have said you are crazy! (I was completely content w being the quiet cute little christian house wife w 4 kids and homeschooling and hiding behind my computer creating websites, branding and marketing for others and pushing them to the top) lol

Then talking to another friend, so much in my life has changed the last 5 years, many major losses, including my husband, father in law, my grand father, grandaddy-in-law, grandmother-in-law, our family dog of 13 years, my mom…..but also on the same, so many good things, getting my health back restored, my business tremendously excelling, meeting many incredible people and being able to connect others in so many incredible ways, SO many *God-winks* I cannot even begin to explain and relate, although I try to often and always try to remember to give Him the praise and glory….

When we truly *reflect* and get *out of ourselves* — many times we find we can quit focusing on the few things that *aren’t* as perfect as we want them to be yet, and be SO incredibly thankful and grateful for the many things that ARE way more than we ever thought they could be or would be………