Personal Development

Reflecting……People are what’s important

Reflecting…

I have noticed, I don’t have the desire as much to wander through the mall or the fancy stores to see what shiny new or pretty things that I may want.

When I was a younger, I wanted all the fun, glitzy and glamorous stuff. Fancy china, sterling silverware, a big house, nice car, pretty dresses and sparkly jewelry. Now granted, I still like many of those things, and those that know me well, know my style, girliy, shiny, sparkly, etc I love! lol But I forget why all I wanted them….. Maybe something to do with insecurities and/or the thoughts to “keep up with” our friends or society’s expectations.

Over the years I’ve lost that desire, and now I have no need to acquire things just for the sake of having them. I still absolutely love my *pretties*…..But moreso now my focus is to have a fun, comfortable, relaxing, enjoyable, homey place for people to gather and enjoy each other.

The focus is on the relationships, not all the stuff. I have decluttered a lot over the past few years, and I am still in decluttering mode, pretty majorly

The bottom line is that it’s always about the people. Family, friends, business associates that have become friends are what life is about. I can have all the money in the world, and I am very grateful and thankful for all that God has brought into my life and blessed me with, with my amazing clients that I help with web, graphics, marketing and all the other online space platforms, speaking engagements, people I coach, but if I don’t share love, respect and time with others, I have nothing.

So I’m reflecting on what’s really important to me. It’s always the people, and my goal every day is to show love, caring and compassion, and put more thought, time and energy into reinforcing those connections…….If we haven’t connected recently in person, or if not local, through skype or google hangout, for a one on one (just catch up and personal get to know each other hour) please reach out to me. 🙂

25 habits of highly successfully happy people

25 Habits of Highly Successfully Happy People

#1 They Forgive

Let bitterness go. Forget the wrong doings – Holding bitterness in will hurt you more in the end than the other person. It does nothing to them, it can literally kill you.

#2 They Laugh – enjoy each moment! Remember when you were a kid, and you laughed a lot? Get that child-like laughter back, don’t be so serious all the time.

#3 They Are Generous

MRI studies have actually shown that the act of giving triggers the same area of your brain as eating chocolate! So the next time you see someone struggling, offer to help. Even if it means giving them $ or helping them pay a bill or meal. You will be blessed more than they will, try it and you will see.

#4 They Breathe Deep

When we breathe deep – oxygen goes into our blood which causes our brain to release happy chemicals known as endorphins. Breath in deep through your nose, then out deep through your mouth, like *pah*, try it right now, just a few deep breaths. They say 10 deep breaths a day, can add many years onto your life!

#5 They Meditate, turn off the noise

The world is so fast paced. We many times automate our lives, and just do, because of habit. Learn to take a minimum of 10 minutes each day. No noises, no distractions. Just you and your habit of happiness.

#6 They Sleep

A rested brain is a happy brain. Getting 8 hours of sleep is best for your body, good rested sleep. If you can sleep till you wake up, that is the best thing, many can’t with jobs, etc, but make sure you are getting enough rested hours, and try atleast once a week to sleep till you wake up.

#7 They Stay Positive

Everyone faces things in life. There is always some sort of bright side, even in the worst of tragedy or adversity. I remember one day after I became a widow, I was having a *woe is me* day, and God allowed me to meet a lady who lost her husband and 4 of her 7 kids in a car wreck. That snapped me back into thankfulness right away) There is always someone who has it worse. Be thankful

#8 They Choose Their Friends Wisely

Friends and family both – Sometimes you don’t have a choice, but most times you do. Choose to be around people that are going to lift you up and push you to be better than you are.

#9 They Don’t Let Others Influence Their Emotions

Some people are the first person to get pissed off at work when someone does something wrong. Emotions in life can run high – learn to focus away from the negativity and stay in positivity – regardless of how others around you are behaving.

#10 They Spend Time Outside – Breathing fresh air

Fresh air – smell it, feel it, soak in the sunshine….feel the warmth, or the coolness of the slight breeze.

#11 They Dream – Have a child-like faith – you had big dreams when you were a child, where are they now?

#12 They Don’t Just Dream

Dreaming can be amazing – but putting your dreams into action and realizing them in life is amazing and lots of fun.

#13 They Love Themselves – First

Put your oxygen mask on first before helping others.Many people think it is because you can’t help someone else, if you aren’t helping yourself – which is true. But also many times if you show someone else, what it is like to do it, then they won’t be afraid to do it (especially a child).

#14 They Have Pets

Pets are unconditional love. A joke says if a guy locks his wife in a trunk and a dog in a trunk, when he lets them out – who will show him unconditional love? haha it is a joke, don’t try it! But that is why many people have PTSD pets too – it is amazing how much they can help.

#15 They Outsource Their Weaknesses

Focus on your strengths and let someone else do the rest. Do yourself what you love, pay others to do what you are not as good at or simply don’t love to do. I can make much more money doing what I love, so why not let someone else, for example who loves to clean, and needs some extra money, do the cleaning once week, that I can do, but I don’t love to do?

#16 They Fire Their Boss

If you boss is a jerk – create an escape plan. It might mean getting a different job or starting your own business. Don’t allow people to treat you bad, you are important, you are worthy. Remember that. Work for someone (or yourself) that values you.

#17 They Exercise

It is healthy, it will help you feel better and look better. At one point I had to have a desk job and was working about 80 hours a week to cover bills, on top of that a lot of financial and emotional and spiritual stress, caused me to gain about 70 lbs. I started just a discipline of walking a couple miles each morning, I simply hated it when my alarm clock went off, I will admit it – it didn’t get better either. lol but I did it. And I always, always felt better after, all day long, and eventually the weight started coming off and I started feeling healthier.

#18 They Don’t Let Road Blocks get in the way

We will always come up against things – it is a part of life. Learn how to go around it, make a bridge, or plow right through it! But do it! No one became successful, without some obstacles.

#19 They Smile – See who you can make smile today! Smile anyway, even when you don’t feel like it, and you will automatically feel happier.

#20 They Help People

Because if you don’t, really what’s the point. Plus – Karma is real and she can be a real pain too. What you do comes back to you. You reap what you sew. No matter how you say it. The God who created the Universe, controls it and it is true.

#21 They Listen

When someone is talking to you, look into their eyes. Pay attention. Be present. Don’t allow other distractions. Mary Kay once said she stood in line one time to meet someone important, when she got up there, she felt him look past her at the line instead of focusing on her – he was not present. She chose to focus on people and make them feel important. That is one reason why her business is so successful as it is today.

#22 They are Nostalgic

Remember history. Remember old stories. Look through old photos. Reminisce. Cherish the memories. Cherish the moments.

#23 They Forget the Tech

Unplug. We live in a busy world! Turn off the noise. Put the phone up, turn off the tv, turn off the radio. Relax. Sometimes truly tech people, like me, I run several businesses, which all require *tech*…..when I can turn off all, just for a bit, it can be very relaxing and regenerating energy.

#24 They Love – love people, love animals, love things….treat every one and every thing the way you want to be treated.

#25 They Try

There is no Can’t. Can’t never tried. Can’t is a 4 letter word. You don’t know unless you try. Try it – you just might surprise yourself!

I was featured on Terry Lancaster’s radio show

I was SO blessed and honored to be asked to be a special speaker on Terry Lancaster‘s radio show! Here is the information he said and how you can listen, and also sign up for his FREE boot camp! (I HIGHLY recommend it, he has lots of GREAT FREE Business tips!)

On this week’s episode, I’m joined by Laurie Delk, author of Keep Those Clients: Learn Relationship Marketing, Double Your Business, and Get Endless Referrals.

Laurie and I talk about what she learned from her Grandmother at the age of 5 that turned out to be the most important lesson she ever learned about business and life.

We talk about relationship marketing, the fact that people want to do business with people they know, like, and trust, and how despite the fact that most sales happen after 7 to 12 contacts, most salespeople quit following up after only 1 or 2.

She reels off a playbook of ways to stay in touch without ever being pushy or overbearing.

We talk about automotive sales legend Joe Girard who send cards and notes to every person he’d ever met EVERY MONTH because he knew that every month that goes by without you contacting the people in your network you lose 10% of your influence with them.

We talk about Tom Hopkins and how he sent 10 thank you notes a day every day and how one of Laurie’s clients sells more cars by sending thank you notes to the customers that don’t buy.

And we talk about how social media is a great supplement to, but never a replacement for, physical cards and actual IN REAL LIFE conversation.

Here is his link to listen to my interview and sign up for his FREE Boot Camp if you want:

http://terrylancaster.com/2017/08/09/build-better-relationships-keep-those-clients-with-laurie-delk/

Come back and tell me what you think!

Who are you? Not what do you do, or what do you sell, but WHO ARE YOU? Do you know? Do you want to know?

They say “people buy people, not websites” “people buy people, not products” — right? So, why do you want people to *buy you*?

What are YOU offering that others that sell the same product/service you do, don’t offer?

HOW are you different from your competition?

Or HOW can you ENHANCE the marketplace to even HELP your competition? (why help them? because what goes around comes around, and the more you help others, the more it WILL come back to you) It is a *Universal Law* and God made our Universe 🙂

What are you doing in building your *personal brand*? Internally and Externally – it is who you have become or are becoming, because of *your story* — so it is unique to you, not anyone else, because you are the only one that has lived or is living your story.

You want to be your authentic and expressive self, that when you speak, and move, it transfers to others, your belief, your value, your story, your *you*……and that is how you will *connect* with others.

Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life

“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough and more.

It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity.

It can turn a meal in to a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.

Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today and creates a vision for tomorrow.”
-Melody Beattie

What are you doing to unlock the fullness of gratitude into your life? When you show and share gratitude, there is no room for depression, no room for hatred, no room for bitterness.

Do your wants match your values?

How many times do you *go after* something…..because you are *looking* for that *fulfillment*……but *it* doesn’t match your *values*?????

Dating – you go out w someone – just to have someone to hold, or just for that companionship, etc but you know they are not right for you or your long term relationship.

Eating – you go get something to eat – just to have that thing you were craving…but you know it is not right for you on your path to the health you want to achieve.

Watching/listening – you watch something on tv, the internet, listening to the radio,ipod etc…just to have something to watch – or thought, well just this once….but it does not match you values, of if you had anyone close to you – watching what you watched/listened, that you’d want them to see what it was, or that it provided value to you in your life to educate you or lift you up – or wasted your time….

What else can you add to this list?
#WeAllHaveChoices

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