I have noticed, I don’t have the desire as much to wander through the mall or the fancy stores to see what shiny new or pretty things that I may want.
When I was a younger, I wanted all the fun, glitzy and glamorous stuff. Fancy china, sterling silverware, a big house, nice car, pretty dresses and sparkly jewelry. Now granted, I still like many of those things, and those that know me well, know my style, girliy, shiny, sparkly, etc I love! lol But I forget why all I wanted them….. Maybe something to do with insecurities and/or the thoughts to “keep up with” our friends or society’s expectations.
Over the years I’ve lost that desire, and now I have no need to acquire things just for the sake of having them. I still absolutely love my *pretties*…..But moreso now my focus is to have a fun, comfortable, relaxing, enjoyable, homey place for people to gather and enjoy each other.
The focus is on the relationships, not all the stuff. I have decluttered a lot over the past few years, and I am still in decluttering mode, pretty majorly
The bottom line is that it’s always about the people. Family, friends, business associates that have become friends are what life is about. I can have all the money in the world, and I am very grateful and thankful for all that God has brought into my life and blessed me with, with my amazing clients that I help with web, graphics, marketing and all the other online space platforms, speaking engagements, people I coach, but if I don’t share love, respect and time with others, I have nothing.
So I’m reflecting on what’s really important to me. It’s always the people, and my goal every day is to show love, caring and compassion, and put more thought, time and energy into reinforcing those connections…….If we haven’t connected recently in person, or if not local, through skype or google hangout, for a one on one (just catch up and personal get to know each other hour) please reach out to me. 🙂
I have always been a *work-a-holic* — I am sure always will lol. My life is pretty scheduled, 7am-midnight almost every day. But, the last few years, with *so many* major and significant losses in my life….
Feb 2013 – husband of 20 years
July 2013 – My Grandpa (dad’s dad)
July 2013 – Our 13 year old Boxer “Bullet* family dog)
2014 – My Father in Law (who we took care of in our garage apt for many years)
2015 – oldest daughter diagnosed w cancer (she won! thank the Lord, and now healthy)
Mar 2016 – My Mom.
And through that – other close friends and family lost or major *issues*- has the reality of the *take care and spend time with those you love, and TELL them you love them, cuz you never know when you will get to again…..even friends….
And then also, even myself….for many years I lived for doing *for* everyone else, and I still do, and I think it is important, but I have also learned, and been hit w the reality, of not being someone’s wife, and kids getting older, not that I won’t always be their mom, but they need me *less* — of *who is Laurie, and what does *she* want and what is she *here for*?
Reflection can be a good thing…..do it…..and figure out what your plans are for the rest of your *dash* here on this earth, and what you are doing for you, and what you are doing for others, and what difference you are going to make in the world and the lives of others. <3